If I want connection, I need to connect If I want freedom, I need to liberate myself If I want to be understood, I need to be understanding If I want to be creative, then I need to create If I want to be at ease, I need to make things easy If I want to be complete, I need to finish If I want to be valued, I need to value If I want to be whole, I need to mend … [Read more...]
10 Cheats To Be Happier (Right Now)
The game of life can be challenging at times. Using these "players tips" will find yourself leveling up your sense of happiness in no time! Be Happier Power-Ups 1. Dress for Game Day This means shower and get dressed for the day. I know this seems like a “EWWW! You have to put this on a list??!!” kinda thing, but let me tell you, when you are in a slump, just getting into … [Read more...]
Forget “One Bite At A Time” – The Easy Way To Eat An Elephant
I thought I had figured out why I don't like elephants BUT, I was wrong. It happens people, life is a process. I don't know abut you, but I create my own issues and then logically try to solve them. "The Plan" doesn't work out. Then I believe I suck and get all miserable about it. I'm calling it... The Self-Created Bullshit Cycle Say you want to get 8 hours of sleep … [Read more...]
What’s That Smell? or Why I Don’t Like Elephants
written February 24, 2015 Isn't it funny how we bullshit ourselves into thinking that "If I only knew WHY" or "If I only knew HOW" then I could do X, Y, or Z? If I only knew WHY he left me, then I could understand and move on. If I knew HOW to let go of my issues I would do it in a heartbeat. If I knew WHY my marriage failed then I can keep it from happening … [Read more...]
This Stop: Funky Town
Written February 19, 2015 Right now I'm in a funk. I'm not talking metaphorically either. I actually smell. It's been almost a week since I've taken a shower and all the things that go with that simple task (like changing clothes, brushing my hair, putting on make-up, changing my drawers). Funk-eee Town. ((gasp)) For the love of God. Seriously? GROSS. I keep asking … [Read more...]
The War Within: Peace Negotiations | Self-Forgiveness
Self-forgiveness doesn't have to be complicated. Just honest. Dear Me, I am so sorry. I am soo sorry for letting you down. For all the missed opportunities and the chances you didn't take and the things you said that you wished you hadn't and the fact that I let you believe that life was supposed to be some sort of fucking challenge that you had to prove yourself at and … [Read more...]
You Made A Mistake. Now What?
We all make mistakes. We all fuck-up. Sometimes they are little things like bumping into someone at the grocery store. Sometimes we fuck-up with such epic style and aptitude you'd think we were experts at creating misery in our own lives. And we are. But not for the reasons you think. It doesn't matter what you did or did not do that created the mistake (or regret) in … [Read more...]
Formulated Requirement For Forgiveness: An Investigation Into Self-Created Suffering
I am a person who easily forgives. The reality? I am a person who easily forgives once you've apologized and repented in what I consider to be an equal amount to the hurt you caused me. THEN, I can forgive you. I don't accept half ass apologies. I disdain insincerity. I see the ability to hurt others and not acknowledge those hurts to be the grossest sign of inhuman … [Read more...]
Hurt, Grief, And All That Fun Stuff
Written January 22, 2015 This whole being angry thing is really starting to piss me off. Enough already. I think I'm done with it. I think it is time to let that anger go and deal with what is underneath. You know, hurt and grief and all that fun stuff. It hurts to hurt. It saddens me to be sad. Just allow it. Let it flow through you. Yeah, I'm trying. Sometimes it … [Read more...]
Mad Tears
Written January 21, 2015 Your blood boils. Your fists clench. You raise your voice. You say some not so nice things. You look at the other person and dare them to contradict you. They do. You storm out of the room. Doors slam. And then you find yourself crying. Mad tears, I call them. They stream down your face and make your nose run and you turn into a dramatic mess. Well, … [Read more...]